Autism Look With Your Heart


Today is Autism Awareness Day, and the entire month of April is Autism Awareness Day. I want to show Autism Awareness because it actually plays a big roll in my life as a mom. My almost 4 year old son Ian was diagnosed with classic Autism right after his 2nd birthday. I love to share our story about having him diagnosed because it was such a blessing and weight taken off our shoulders situation.  Here is the full diagnosis story about Ian.

We were going in for a normal 2 year old Well-Child check up just after his 2nd birthday, and the doctor said the word Autism. I immediately started to cry. I knew there was something up, but it was so hard to hear it. When Ian was about 18 months old he completely stopped saying the words he could say, and so I put him in speech. As soon as that doctor told us she thought that our little boy had Autism we looked for help. We searched for doctors that can do an actual diagnosis because we knew that if we had that diagnosis we could get Ian the help he needed. We got an appointment with a Children’s psychologist a couple of hours away from where we lived at the time in Washington. The appointment was like 3-4 months out, so we began to do our research online to find out more about Autism. The internet is a great tool, but it can also worry you as well, and also you begin to diagnose your own child. I was so glad when I got a phone call from the psychologist’s office that someone had canceled their appointment and we could get in that month ( July 2013). We were in the office with the doctor for over an hour , and we filled out tons of paper work before hand. When we walked out with Ian’s diagnosis of Autism both my husband and I cried, but almost like tears of happiness because now we could help Ian more. We could try to understand why he is the way he is. It would help his teachers and therapist in teaching him in the way he needed. I know that it was all answers from my crazy amount of praying for help and comfort to Heavenly Father.

Ian has now been in a ABA ( Applied Behavior Analysis) therapy program for 8 months now, and we have seen so much progress. Ian has been such an amazing blessing to our family. All marriages go through tough times and this was one of our toughest times. It has made our marriage so much stronger. We rely on each other so much, and my husband and I make a great team in this journey with Ian. Our daughter Chloe who is 2, is such a great influence on Ian. She kind of helps him pull out of his little bubble he is in. She loves his so much and is his best friend. Chloe loves Ian for who he is not matter what.

Ian brings so much happiness into our lives and everyone’s lives that he is around. His smile and laugh can light up a room. We don’t know why our Ian boy has autism but we do know that we love him. We do know that he was sent to our family for a reason, and that reason we do not know. We do know that we are here to learn right along with Ian, and to be on this journey of Autism as a family. When you look at a child with autism with your eyes there is so much judgement and unknown seen. If you look with your heart you see a very special child. One who loves life, and wants you to love life with him. So look with your heart not your eyes. You will miss so much looking with your eyes.


Autism Resources:

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Suggested Classroom Interventions for Children with ADD & Learning Disabilities

The Life-Changing Impact of Autism Service Dogs

Addressing Special Education Needs for Students Learning English as a Second Language

College Assistance Guide for People with ADHD

22 Tips for Teaching Students with Autism Spectrum Disorders

50 Must-See Blogs for Special Education Teachers

The Ultimate Guide to Water Safety for Parents and Caregivers of Children with Autism

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  • Arianne Plehandzic

    So proud of you for writing this! It can be hard to retell these personal stories, but it really helps others dealing with the same thing. You did a wonderful job…happy Ian is getting the help he needs. He is blessed to have a mama like you!! Miss our little chats…keep up the good work!! <3

    • CBAsay

      Thanks Arianne. Ian is a huge part of our lives as I know your daughter is. I hope that this helps others who are going through the same struggles.

    • Charlene Bullinger Asay

      I miss our chats as well. I hope school and work are going well for you.

  • butfirstcoffeemom

    What a great picture, adorable! Although, it must have been terribly difficult it sounds like you guys have flourished as a family. I am sure many others will benefit from reading your post!

    • CBAsay

      Thanks Laura, it was not easy to hear that our son has Autism at all. But so thankful for the diagnosis at the same time.

  • What a cutie! I love your perspective and what a positive approach you have taken with his diagnosis. He is lucky to have such a supportive and loving family! 🙂

    • Charlene Bullinger Asay

      Thanks, we feel extra lucky to have him in our family. It’s not always easy but we love him so much!

  • Candice

    Lovely post. Diagnoses can be so hard.

  • Raising Samuels

    What a beautiful post, Charlene! My husband and I each have cousins who have a child with a form of autism, but they are just like any other child because of the love and attention they are given. It was so good to hear that in your post! Love is so important. Thank you for highlighting this and sharing with #SocialButterflySunday! Hope to see you link up again this week 🙂

    • Charlene Bullinger Asay

      Thanks you for stopping by and for your kind words

      • Raising Samuels

        Thanks for sharing with #SocialButterflySunday, Charlene! I am sharing on my Facebook page for Raising Samuels Homeschool and have also pinned and tweeted! Hope you have an amazing weekend 🙂

  • Anita

    Aw, what a beautiful story and a beautiful son! I’m with you on the importance of knowing the diagnosis–it doesn’t have to become a label, instead, it’s a launch pad for discovery and growth and feeling as if one is doing things proactively instead of reactively.

    • Charlene Bullinger Asay

      Thanks for stopping by. Diagnosis are super important. It helps those children on the spectrum be successful in life!