Being A Stay At Home Mom

Tips to being a stay at home mom

This subject is very dear and near to my heart. I am a stay at home mom to 2 beautiful children. My 4 year old, Ian made me a mom. Ian was a hard baby from the start. I was going to school online and trying to be a first time mom at the same time. It was rough, but I wouldn’t trade it for anything. When Ian was 18 months old he completely quit talking. We put him in speech, so I was able to be there at every session because I was a stay at home mom. Right after Ian’s 2nd birthday he was diagnosed with Autism. This has changed our lives forever. We feel very blessed to have Ian in our family, but it’s not always easy to raise a child with Autism. I am so blessed that I am able to be a stay at home mom, and be involved in all of Ian’s daily routine of therapies and such.

My second child is Chloe who is 2. She is full of energy and spunk. Chloe is my “I need my mom” child. She is my little shadow, and loves to help me. Chloe is so smart, and a blessing to both us as parents and her brother. She has been a breeze so far. She has slept through the night since she was a month old. Eats verily well, and plays well with other children. I just recently got her potty trained. She has caught on to skills and tasks so quickly. Chloe loves her brother so much. She calls him “My Ian”. It’s the sweetest thing ever how much she wants to be where he is, do what he is doing and help him. I am so blessed to be home with Chloe to watch her learn and grow.

I have always wanted to be a stay at home mom. My mom stayed home with all 5 of us kids growing up. I always appreciated my mom being home with us. She was always there when we needed her, because of her example I wanted to be a stay at home mom as well. Being a stay at home is the most rewarding job I could ever have. Of course it is not easy, and there are some seriously hard, terrible days of this job. In the end you are rewarded with the most sweet spirits to raise and be called mom by.

Since being a stay at home mom is one of the hardest but most rewarding jobs I wanted to share some of my tips to help out new stay at home moms or moms that have been stay at home moms for a while. In hopes that these tips would make your days easier and help you love being a stay at home mom.


1: Most important: Get out of the house at least once if not twice a week

I think that it’s very important to get out with your kids. Both you and the kids need this. Being cooped up in the house can be super hard on everyone. Get out and go to the park, have a play date, go swimming or go to the library. Just get out and do something fun with your kids. This does not mean grocery shopping. This is a task that of course has to be done each week, even with kids sometimes. Don’t count it as your fun activity.

2: Play with your kids

Your kids want you to play with them. Sometimes stay at home moms get so busy with their to do lists they have to get done that they forget to play. That to do list can wait. Your kids are growing up far to fast, and wont always want you to play with them. I have found when I get on the floor and play or read to my children we all end up laughing and enjoying our time together.

3: Have You Time

Every mom needs sometime during the day or week just for them. Even if it means getting out of the house alone. Or watching your favorite show on tv when the kids are napping. You deserve this time to yourself. You have worked hard as a stay at home mom.

4: Get out and exercise

I know when I get out and exercise I feel so much better about myself. As a stay at home mom it can be so easy to forget to take care of yourself. You need to remember to take care of your body as well. Strap those kiddos in the stroller and go for a walk or run. Going hiking with your kids is always a fun activity as well. Your kids will love exercising with you.

5: Get dressed every day

Get up before the kids do or while they eat breakfast and get dressed, fix your hair and put some makeup on. Trust me you will feel so much better about yourself all day long.

6: Have a routine each day

With my little boy’s therapy and just because he loves routine we have a routine each and every day. This has helped me feel more prepared each day. Schedule your day so that you are able to effectively tackle tasks as well as be there for your family!

7: Don’t give up your hobbies

Just because you have kids doesn’t mean you have to give up all your hobbies and things you like to do. You can still sew, scrap book  or whatever it is you love to do. I love to sew. I am not very good at it, but it helps me relax and I enjoy my time when I do sew. Every mom needs a outlet, something that is different from their every day tasks as a mom.

8: Remember you can say no..

Sometimes it can be hard to say no when asks to take dinner to someone for the 3rd time in a month. You can say no. Your life is busy too. Sometimes I think that since we are stay at home moms people think we have all the time in the world. That’s not true. Don’t stress yourself out by adding more to your plate then you can handle. You can say no!


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  • Great tips!! Everyone thinks being a SAHM means sitting around the house all day…NOT!! I love the ideas for staying real, thank you for sharing with us at the #HomeMattersParty

    • CBAsay

      I just laugh when people say oh I’m just a SAHM. It’s a lot more then that. You have so many rolls as a SAHM. Thanks for stopping by.

  • Deanna Hershberger

    GREAT TIPS! Being a Stay at home Mom can be incredibly stressful. I am exhausted at the end of every day. BUT I wouldn’t change my life for anything! It is such a great blessing!! Thank you for the tips. And head over to Everything Kids and grab a featured button. You were my favorite and will be featured on Sunday! :) Thanks for sharing with us!!
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  • Arianne Plehandzic

    I love these! Your pic with Ian is priceless!! What a wonderful ways to get to know you and give great tips! I need to make you a template so you can post it and give away. (Plus I need to get these tips up on the wall somewhere!!) ;)

  • Kimberly Bonham

    These are all great tips! Thank you so much for sharing!!

    • Charlene Bullinger Asay

      Thanks for stopping by Kimberly. I hope that these are helpful tips.

  • Your tips are a welcome reminder to me – especially during the summer months when the normal routine is long gone. I LOVE how much you share about your personal journey as a mom and family dynamic. Your little ones are so lucky to have such a practical & loving mom, and you’re lucky to have them. Thank you for giving such encouragement to us!

    • Charlene Bullinger Asay

      Thank you Saira,
      I appreciate your thoughts on this post. Being a mom is the best!

  • I love the tip about playing with your kids. I work full-time from home and it’s so easy to be stuck behind my computer when my 9 month old is up, but I can just see his face light up anytime I walk away from the computer and play with him for a minute or two. If he’s being a little fussier than normal he instantly cheers up when I give him some attention. It’s such an important thing to do!

    • Charlene Bullinger Asay

      That is so great. You are such a good mom. What a great opportunity you have to work from home and be with your little one as well.

  • Shann Eva

    Great tips. I struggle with a few of them. I really need to work on playing more with the kids. I’m so fixated on getting everything done, everyone fed, and not fighting, that I forget. I also need to get them dressed every day. I often let my twins stay in PJ’s when we don’t go anywhere, and this is probably not the best idea. Thanks for sharing.

    • Charlene Bullinger Asay

      It is so hard to be perfect at all of these. I know that I am not at all. It is just good to hear these as a reminder.

  • Serene Mom

    Yes to all of these, especially getting dressed. I even get my kids dressed even if we don’t go anywhere. It makes you feel so much better!

    • Charlene Bullinger Asay

      Same here Serne,
      It helps so much!

  • Lauren Jane

    I love this advice! especially the “get dressed”…after a few days not doing this right after my youngest came, I recognize the importance of looking human!

    • Charlene Bullinger Asay

      It’s such a simple step, but it makes you feel so much better.

  • Becky @Disney in your Day

    These are such great tips. Especially having you time, as it can be easy to get caught up in the kids all the time!

    • Charlene Bullinger Asay

      Its great to be caught up in your kids, but remember to take care of you as well. You have to be okay to make sure your kids are okay :)

  • Fabulous tips. I’m not a mom, but I’ve always believed in dedicated time for just you every day (whether you’re a mom or not). It’s important!

    • Charlene Bullinger Asay

      You are so right. Even if you aren’t a mom it’s important.

  • Chelsea

    I would absolutely love to be a stay at home mom. This was a great read!

    • Charlene Bullinger Asay

      Thanks Chelsea,
      I hope that some day you can be. It’s a great job :)

  • samantha ramos

    These are such great tips! I sometimes feel guilty watching a show during nap time instead of spending that time on my blog or cleaning, but I do deserve it! Being a stay at home mom is not easy. You are right about saying no, you can’t do everything. It’s about making your husband, kids, and yourself happy first!

    • Charlene Bullinger Asay

      Thanks for stopping by. I feel guilty sometimes too watching a show. I always try to do one chore before I do though. :)